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Are You Tired Of Feeling Lonely?

I remember spending an hour just sitting near the food table,
not knowing what else to do.

The one person that I actually knew in that party was off with her own friends and was easily making new ones, while all I had for "company" was a plate of cold spaghetti and a slice of cake...

...and that twisting, uncomfortable feeling in my stomach that made me wish I could just run away and hide.

My family never said I was "painfully shy" - but that's how I felt anyway.

So as I grew up I tried to find ways to "overcome my shyness," because I was tired of making excuses about why I couldn't make it to this and that party, tired of staying behind in the office while everyone else went to the huge company event.

Most of all, I was just tired of feeling lonely.

I was tired of watching all those other girls easily having boyfriends of their own, of seeing them so comfortably laughing and talking with guys.

It was like life had given them a secret manual called "How to Be Incredibly Attractive To The Opposite Sex," while I never even got a memo.

So I tried looking for that secret manual, myself, using various books and magazines.

But the problem with those books & magazines was that
they seemed to be telling me there was something wrong with me...

They seemed to want me to become someone else.

Of course I knew I needed help. But something about those articles just made me feel worse about myself, and I knew that there was something wrong about that, too.

Luckily - when I was just finishing my Master's Degree in Counseling Psychology - I discovered two insights that changed my life:

First, I realized I didn't have to try to become someone else.

Second, I discovered that it wasn't really "shyness" that was
keeping me from the life I wanted.

I realized that being an "introvert" was simply part of my personality, and that it was totally okay to be me! I wasn't a second-class person for not being the life of the party, or for not being a drop-dead gorgeous model or a bubbly flirt.

In fact, trying to go against who I was and trying to pretend to be something I'm not only brought me more unhappiness (on top of the loneliness, which was still there).

But I also realized this: Getting to know my real, authentic self gave me the freedom to become more of who I was, AND to develop new skills to help me become the person I could still be!

It wasn't really shyness that was keeping me from the life I wanted. It was not knowing what I really wanted for my life in the first place!

Because I wasn't sure about who I was & what unique gift I could give to the world
I was trapped in a cycle of trying to be what everyone else expected me to be.

My shyness was simply a reflection of the discomfort I felt
about not knowing what was special about just being me.

Maybe this is the same reason for your shyness. Maybe it's something else. Maybe you're not quite sure yet.

But maybe the one thing that you are sure of is that you're READY for things to CHANGE.

If you know you're tired of:

feeling incredibly lonely, or feeling like you'll never be "good enough"
being afraid that you might never find someone to love you for you
staying in unhealthy relationships because no one else might love you again if you leave
watching in the sidelines at work, because you're unsure about taking on bigger roles
passing up incredible work & relationship opportunities because of fear
feeling overwhelmed by everyone else's ideas & demands about
what you're supposed to do and who you're supposed to be...

...then I'd like to invite you to sign up for my 6-Month Transformation Program where I will personally coach you and help you rediscover the amazing woman you already are, and help you become the more amazing woman you still have the capacity to be.

If you want to know more about this program, email me directly here, or sign up for my electronic newsletter called Love and Life Skills, where I share with you my discoveries about how to experience love in the ways that count, and succeed in life in the ways that matter.

These insights and skills are designed especially for shy girls of all ages (shy guys are welcome, too!), because I've come to realize that LIFE is a wonderful playground-slash-laboratory where we have the chance to try out new things, invent new games, or change the rules to the old ones.

But here's the catch: Simply reading or hearing about something does NOT equal learning.

Learning requires you to take action, to turn these theories
into actual experiences, and to allow these experiences to help you grow.

Which is why I also invite you to join the Shy Girls' Community at Ning - so we can all support each other and help each other out.

It's been many years since that dreadful party
(and other parties like it).

What's even better is that I've come to realize that there are certain parties I enjoy going to... and there are certain parties that I don't.

And that's totally okay!

I've also come to realize how much I love helping out people like me, and lead them to re-discovering the wonderful people they already are, and help them become the incredible people they still have the capacity to be.

Because I know YOU are totally okay, too!

Let's connect, and we'll talk again soon!